Yesterday marked the 6 month anniversary of Rebecca's passing. We talk about her often, she is still very present in our lives. We all miss her terribly. But, meanwhile, life goes on...
In the last 6 months I have: Built what amounts to an extension on the house to be the home of the Olive Press, totally remodeled the downstairs bathroom, replaced the floor and the sink in the upstairs bathroom, Put a big deck on the back of the house, purchased a piano and made some upgrades in the Kitchen. Oh yeh, and purchased a BIG tv (60 inch).
Despite all that Rebecca's jewelry is still all laid out on her bedside table how she liked it. Her cloths still take up 80% of the available space in our room and we eat fish at least once a week because she insists it's good for us.
I added raised beds to our veggie garden, it's much easier on my back. I have lots of fava's in for the winter and I'm starting to plan the spring plantings. The bees are a'buzzing but I got rid of the chickens, I decided I just didn't have any care-taking energy in me right now.
The kids are up and down. Generally they are doing amazingly well but every so often reconnect with what they have lost. I think as time goes on they understand more what it means to not have her around and are starting to miss the things that used to annoy them. "Why does she make us eat salad all the time" has become "Dad why don't we eat more salad"... The kids would never make me feel bad by saying anything like: "it was better when mom was around" but I know that it is true. I'm doing a pretty good job, but, the world was better when mom was around.
And then.... we have lots of fun. It turns out that living in a house with a sick person puts a cloud over things. There are times now that we have a level of loud, energetic, fun that we couldn't have in the house before because it was too much for Rebecca.
The railing of the new deck incorporates the last piece of art Rebecca welded.... you should come check it out and hang out on the deck with me and the kids!
Love Love
8 comments:
Glad to see a new comment on your blog Andy. also, happy to hear about the renovations. That has to be good for everyone. This will always suck, but there is so much love in your family. Make salads for the kids. xoxo
Linda
Love love.
Gonna' be doing some serious hanging on the deck all summer. Save me hammock space!
You are all doing remarkably well -- the ups and downs are there for sure, but you are rallying and carrying on....just as Rebecca would have wished. So delightful to have you in our lives, and to have the time (like over tea tonight) to just sit and visit...
Sending you all my love.
I am so pleased to see how well you are all coping.Justine keeps me up to date with all your news and | know Jack comes over to watch sport on the BIG TV.Its a boy thing! You have amazing children.I am so pleased I managed to be there to share the time at Merevs bat mitzvah.It was wonderful.Much love to you all.
Barbara xxx
Thanks for the update Andy. I look forward to some hangout time on your deck.
Ruthie
Thanks for the update. I look forward to some hangout time on the deck.
ruthie
hey there, just coming across this right now. so glad the garden is blooming and all the renovations sound terrific. wonderful that one of rebecca's welding pieces is in the deck. think of you and yours often. much love and hugs and kisses to all, xo merrie
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